Child development- Role of parents in child development

Child development- Role of parents in child development

What is child development?

Child development is about teaching our children the art of living like a civilized member of society. As we raise our children, we are influenced by the style of our parents.

This means we raise our children like our parents. Child development should not be carried out as our parents did for us. Child development should be according to the ever-changing time.


 It is generally believed that a child development should be started from the time he is able to think and understand. As in civilized countries, this period is counted from the age of three and a half years.


But modern research has refuted this notion. In fact, child development begins at birth.  They say that child development is a major success factor. Circumstances begin to affect child development and mind from that moment on.


 Talking about personality development, it cannot be groomed without child development. We may have learned some good things. But there is more you can learn.


Psychologist Philippa Perry, in her book The Book You Wish Your Parents Head Read (a book your parents would have read), has advised people to be good parents.


She explains how you can be a good parent so that your children can have a better start in life. At the same time, you should not try too hard for it.


Role of parents in child development

I have been involved in the teaching process for six years. What I have missed in the children during this period is the moral standard. Our children are capable and intelligent in every way but lack of moral training.


 In our society today, the moral standard has dropped so much that the literary line between children and parents has disappeared.


But it has become common for parents to be angry and roll their eyes. Parents are afraid to talk to their children, now it is the case that the father communicates to the child through another person.

Napoleon had said that you give me the best mothers in the world and I will give you a good nation.

 The father stays out of the house to earn a living, the mother is always at home and the mother’s carelessness leaves the child on the stage that he commits sins like disobedience of the father.


If the mother pays attention to the moral training of the child and monitors and corrects him at all times. Then when he grows up, he becomes a good member of society while obeying the parents.


Role of educational institutes in child development

 Nowadays, due to overcrowding and lack of standards, even the schools do not provide moral training to the children.


The schools that open in the street coaches are not able to pay attention to the morals of the children as the world wants them to pay their fees. And some schools hire teachers who need self-training because they hire teachers who have low moral status.


Private and government schools, where most of the teachers spend their time talking, are responsible for today’s moral degradation.

Now due to the negligence of the mother and the criminal negligence and shortcomings of the schools, our children get degrees but they are deprived of the real purpose of education and when they enter society, they cause the deterioration of our society.


Role of Society in child development

There was a time when society was also responsible for child development. I remembered that when I was a child the people from my town used to teach me moral values whenever I made a mistake.

Older family members were confined to only teaching children moral values. They used to tell us moral stories. There was a time table for children to watch cartoons on television.

With a sudden revolution in technology, modern children are deprived of all this. Now in developed nations, almost every child has access to social media. This access results in failure in achieving moral values for children.

There are also other factors in the societies responsible for poor moral values in children. For example, fighting is common in society due to intolerance. People do not respect each other. Lies and deception, theft, and cheating have become common in schools.


Children will become the nation of tomorrow, so in order to build a nation whose people are strong in body and healthy in mind, attention needs to be paid to the basic bricks.


Role of parents in child education

We are very careless when it comes to child education. The playful element is high and the training is low. The baby’s movements and postures are considered noticeable and he does not have a system for eating and sleeping. No rules are followed. As a result, many promising children are doomed.


This publication of introduces a series of steps that will cover all aspects of the child’s training and which will definitely be beneficial for both the parents and the children.


The baby is born in the family, not in space. As soon as he comes into this world, he establishes his relationship with his family. This brief environment is his world and accordingly, he begins to shape his life unknowingly.


This is the basis of his happiness and unhappiness, his tendencies and desires, and the success and failure of his future life.

Parents have high hopes for their newborn who is still in the cradle. Despite not knowing what role he will play in society, expectations are set for the little soul, sometimes the child has more abilities than expectations.


 Although he is not a supernatural being, his heart and mind can be endowed with superior qualities. He may not have the opportunity to work with them and it is possible that he may not be aware of them.


It is the parents’ responsibility to recognize their child’s God-given abilities and to provide them with opportunities to use them. But nowadays, the trend is the opposite. In this materialistic era, everyone wants their children to become a doctor or engineer.

The purpose behind this is just to earn a lot of money and live a happy life. But truly speaking, earning a lot of money does not guarantee happiness. There are so many rich people in the world who go for suicide. The suicide ratio is higher among people from a rich background.

This means money is not the factor one should look for happiness. The real happiness is what brings satisfaction to us. And this satisfaction can only be achieved by doing what we are made for. Therefore, a child’s interest must be considered while deciding their education.

If your child is a good painter, then pushing him to become a doctor will never give him happiness. So let your children go for what they are interested in.

The selfless and intense love of the parents for the child is natural, but it is further enhanced by the realization that the future of this weak and innocent being depends on our intellect and expression of the child’s abilities.


Many things about the high and all-round development of a child are not yet known to science. Apart from material development, we know very little about the secret of its mental, emotional, and social development.


However, there is a significant increase in information compared to the past. This article will shed light on the circumstances and events of a child’s daily life from birth to puberty in a simple way, away from the medical and philosophical discussion, and will explain the means by which parents use children.


Parents who are troubled by a difficult issue at some level of their children’s training will surely find a suitable solution somewhere in these subjects.

We start training a child from his birthday. From that day on, every new event teaches him something and leaves behind an effect that works to motivate or deter the child. But these effects, whether good or bad, are not permanent.


During the upbringing and training, the heartfelt wish of the parents is that all the abilities of the child should be developed as much as possible, but if the work is done hastily and the child’s board is not kept in view, their wish will never grow.


If these two things are kept in mind, it will be beneficial for both the child and the parents.


The first is that no human being is free from mistakes. The second is that the child does not consider them innocent angels, nor does he expect them to become angels.


After that, the parents will have a lot of opportunities for improvement and child development.

Parents do not only want their children to be successful and have good character as far as school is concerned, but they also want to be respected members of society and a decent citizen while participating in practical life.


Be able to understand the facts and deal with them. Be able to carry the burden of your responsibilities, do not be afraid of confusions and worries.


Parents will have to take various measures to prepare their children for this standard. After the failure of one method, the other method has to be tried. They have to work with great wisdom, foresight, caution, and patience.

But if they truly love their children, they will not be bothered to run new schemes and wait for the result, nor will they be offended by their mistakes. Nor will it have a negative impact on training. Just keep in mind that all this effort is being made for the welfare of the children.


Training of child


showing child training

The training of a child should not be taken lightly. Its basic principles are very simple. This work can be done happily and peacefully without any special effort.

The pace of training slows down and results are not achieved overnight. Gradually and easily the child is made to accept the training. From infancy to boyhood, a child should be taught only one thing at a time.


Early baby development

In the beginning, the child can express only a few things. Cries when hungry, starts screaming in pain. These days he realizes two dangers.

Shocked by noise and afraid of falling. The fact that the child is able to express the condition that occurs in him makes training easier.


 The more he is able to accept external influences, the better he will develop physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially.


Developmental milestone for children

An early developmental milestone is of worth importance. According to Child Psychologists, the first five years of a newborn are key years for his mental development.

The following steps will cover how to set developmental milestones for children.

(1) A simple law of nature, which should be the cornerstone of a child’s training, is that he will do things over and over again that will bring him joy and happiness and will try to remove that thing or he will be scared which will cause him pain or distress.


Suppose a baby gets hungry prematurely and the mother does not give him milk, then he starts crying and this only adds to his pain. In a few days, he will learn that crying prematurely does not do anything, it only increases his pain.


 From this, he will learn two things: One is that there is no point in accepting the effect of temporary distress. The second is that accepting the effect increases the discomfort. However, if she is given less than the required amount, it will be natural for her to cry prematurely.


Training is not possible without making the child experience some kind of failure. The baby naturally cries for it or reaches for something it wants. When he can’t get it or is stopped, he will get angry.


He can eliminate them only when he realizes that he has no choice but to accept something unwelcome or that there is a way to get rid of it. Failure makes a person accustomed to thinking coldly.

(2) A child sees an apple on a high cupboard. He has a desire to take an apple. He jumps up and down, reaching for the apple, but can’t get there. Eventually, he gives up trying, full of grief and anger.


Now the same apple is seen by another child of his age. After thinking for a while, he dragged a chair from the room to the closet and stood on the chair, reaching for the apple and picking it up.


The same force that the first child wastes in futile effort and anger, the second uses the same force in thoughtful and right action and ultimately succeeds. That is, the sooner a child learns to find a solution to his problem instead of causing it trouble and distress, the better for him.


It is very sad to see a spoiled baby unable to think of a cure for any of his problems, just as an infant gradually stops crying, knowing that crying for untimely milk is of no use. In the same way, an older child can give up his desire if he realizes that this is what is expected of me.


This readiness will increase even more if he is convinced that instead of this desire, a better situation will be created for him in the future. But a child cannot learn this quickly, because deprivation does not have to be resolved immediately.


(3) For example, a child saves some of his pocket money to buy a bicycle. For a long time, he has to suppress his other desires, but the reward for those frustrations will eventually come in the form of success in one of his great goals, which is to buy a bicycle.


If the child finds the small world around him full of love and compassion, feelings of empathy for the wider world will arise in his heart. He will establish a bond with ordinary humanity. Don’t be afraid of anyone.


His judgment will guide him in different situations. He will soon realize that things do not always turn out as expected. If he sees that the knowledge or skill in which he wants to develop, the conditions are not conducive for him, then he will find in himself the ability to choose another suitable field of action.


Gradually his personality will be perfected and he will become a prominent and successful member of society.

It is important to keep in mind the child’s natural tendencies when planning an education program. Not all habits of a child are necessarily favorite.


Habits should be corrected with the wisdom to turn them into favorite habits. The purpose of education is to divert trends towards useful things that are beneficial to children and society.


Parents want their children to have permanent, rather than temporary, comfort. Their love also demands that every wish of the child be fulfilled as much as possible and they also see that the child becomes restless only when the desires that are most important to him are not fulfilled.


If the parents are carrying out the duty of training with the right principles and with full confidence, then no problem can arise which cannot be overcome. Especially if the condition of the child is closely observed.


 And don’t be stubborn and insistent on a pre-arranged program. It is better for parents to keep asking themselves why we think about our children all the time?


(4) Education is a gradual and slow process, so the child should not be burdened beyond his means. He should not be reprimanded for every mistake. The child will automatically begin to understand that I should try to prevent mistakes and In this way, he will develop a passion for reacting to his failures.



For example: when a child starts walking first and falls on the first step, he will consider it an accident. He will get up and then step up, then fall. That is what he will continue to do. With the hope that this time I will definitely succeed.


Realizing that education is acquired slowly, not hastily, and with success and failures, he will naturally long for longevity. He will pursue his future life’s pursuits and pursue higher education in a way that will earn him the respect and admiration of society.


The process of adapting to one’s environment is natural for every child, whether he has opened his eyes to a civilized city or to a savage tribe in the desert. Parents should not make him poor at all when he is passing through this destination.


 It should be noted that it also has its own personality. He should be given the opportunity to express his individual characteristics. He can become a complete human being only if he can maintain his individuality while fulfilling the requirements of society.


(5) The personal requirements of society and the individual are very similar, so the question arises as to what the child is as a person, what he wants to do, and what his parents and society expect from him. This collision highlights the child’s personality.


One thing is that if we expect a child to exceed his age and natural ability, on the one hand, this expectation will not be fulfilled, on the other hand, the child’s courage will be broken. He will change his mind and give up.


If we insist that the child take every step we expect, he will be upset and sad, which will result in failure and rebellion.


On the contrary, if we allow him to act according to his age and understanding, with the care that it does not go against our expectations and also allow him to divert attention from one side to the other.


Then the way to reform and development will open before him. He will be very happy that I am moving forward and that my own will is involved.

This aspect of a child’s education requires consideration, patience, and perseverance from the parents. This will give an idea of ​​the child’s developmental motivation and work ethic.


(6) Parents should love their children because they are children and not because they are very obedient and follow their every instruction.


 Some parents put so much emphasis on the child’s work and success that they seem to understand the reason for love only that I get good marks in school, work at home, live with distinction, and follow any parental order.


The child should never be given a chance to think but should realize that the parents love me as their child and I have an individual status in this home.


Child development as a family member

All that has been written so far is about the caste of the child. Nothing is said as a family member. The family in which the baby is born has at least two or more members.


 They have a relationship with each other. They have certain morals and some rules of living. No matter how much a newborn is welcomed into the family, it is important to maintain order at home.


Social, emotional, and economic problems also occur after birth. Sometimes they come out one by one, sometimes all at once.

If parents keep in mind the nature of the occasion and the true nature of the incident and think separately about the birth of the child, it will be easier to deal with them.


At the birth of a child, parents usually think that it is very small right now. Its needs are almost non-existent. His arrival could not change any of the arrangements at home.


For the first few months, care is taken to keep the baby clean and to get food on time. In some families, the child is given special importance. He becomes the center of everyone’s attention.


Everyone is working to make him happy and to make him feel comfortable. Outdoor recreation and all household chores are subordinate to the comfort of the child.


But this excessive importance and useless flirtations can be neither useful for the child nor for the family. It should be understood that the child is a member of the family just like everyone else.

Everyone has different desires, needs, and interests, if these things are taken into account then the child will understand his place and there will be no fear of it getting worse.

What changes are needed at home for the child’s comfort and health and how to implement them so that no one else’s comfort is disturbed. To solve this problem, it is necessary to look at:

(1) How many people and how many rooms there are in the house.

(2) What kind of comfort does everyone need according to their tastes?

 (3) What is your income?

(4) What is the spending limit for house cleaning, food, and other necessities?

 (5) After this, the capacity of the house, the number of rooms, and the expenses should be distributed in such a way that all the needs of the child are met and everyone else, big or small, gets his right as much as possible.

(6) Unnecessary self-sacrifice can neither bring permanent comfort to the child nor bring comfort to other members of the family.

(7) The house should be arranged in such a way that everyone gets comfort and needs are met without interfering in the affairs of others.

(8) If for some reason the father’s time changes, then the child’s time should also be changed, but it must be kept in mind that there should be no difference in the time allotted for the child.

With this change of time, the child will understand that the center of the homeworld is not only me, there are other people for whom the family system can change.

(10) The child learns the basics of love and love from the people around him. This education should not be of such a kind that it makes them feel that their place in the family is not real and cannot establish the future.

Parents who have children after a long time often spoil it by pampering them too much. Not that they are not familiar with the method of training, but the dominance of love does not allow them to stop the child from anything.

When a child becomes ill, they turn to psychologists, turn the pages of books and seek advice from friends, sometimes disturbed by conflicting advice, they cannot decide to stick to one and never ignore it.


As far as our domestic circumstances allow and it can be used on the child, they start acting on a single piece of advice. The result is nothing but despair and pain.

 If they had tried to understand the child’s mind and take a closer look at their relationship with him and other family members, they would never have had to put up with the inconvenience and the result would have been for the benefit of all.

No child development according to the rules and standards set by the parent, so it is important for them to keep a close eye on changes in the child’s circumstances.

The fact that a friend of theirs has devised a program to train their child or a particular training method has proved useful somewhere, does not necessarily mean that they should try it on their own child and get the desired result.

They should consider their child as a separate entity and set up a program for their living, eating education, and entertainment that is appropriate to their special circumstances and family affairs.

Life is a dynamic thing and it changes constantly, so the relationship of children with their parents cannot be the same. This changes over time.

 On such occasions, no one should think that this change is of any major significance. Each stage of life and development has its own hobbies, tendencies, and hobbies.

Some parents think that their child was good until he was young and some children consider him an ignorant child till his youth.

 Mothers have been seen treating their 14-year-old son as if he were just 4 years old. Such offspring are confined within a certain limit. The baby is a growing thing.

He will go through the stages of infancy, boyhood, adolescence, and adolescence. Parents should guide him on every destination journey and also be aware of the conditions of one destination after another.

The baby is born between different family problems and situations. Parents should be ready to receive it with mutual happiness. If one of the parents or another relative has to raise the child due to accidents or domestic disputes, child development and training become very difficult.

In these cases, the same person has to perform the duties of a mother or father or both. He tries to make the child happy in every way and not to miss any caste for himself. In this case, many aspects of training are neglected.

There is also the question of inheritance in the upbringing of a child, but this issue is very complex. It should be understood that this is one of the things that affect his morals, habits, and mind.

Child development is mostly affected by the environment. Apart from home, school, customs, and family traditions, society also plays a major role in this.

As a baby grows and develops, he or she needs a sense of security. This is possible only when his real or step-parents or the person who is responsible for his upbringing love him with all his heart and this love is not temporary but permanent.

This feeling will give the child the motivation and confidence to grow. He will face new events and experiences with a smile.

Parents will also see that the child makes a lot of mistakes in the way of development. But if they work patiently and make him realize that by pointing out the mistake they do not mean to block the way but to hold hands when they come to a difficult place.

If he is to move forward, he will feel happy and a friendly atmosphere and will gradually be adorned with the qualities that hope will be nurtured in the hearts of parents.




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